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I am not a Pottyologist. I am a believer that every child is different, if you remember that then you are off to a good start. Just because Little Tommy did it in a week doesn’t mean that Jack will follow suit. Each kid will pose a different set of toilet training challenges for you to resolve.
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below is what you will need to start the Toilet Training adventure:
From my experience of toilet training my three monkeys I
have listed below some of the pearls and pitfalls I myself have
encountered. I think we all have our
potty stories to share.
This is by far the most important aspect of toilet
training. If your child is showing no
signs of readiness don’t waste your time.
A week is a long time in a little one’s world. Wait until they are showing signs that THEY want
to be a big boy or girl. It’s not your
call. I know this because when I moved
to Canada my oldest was approaching her second birthday. I met a girl (now a good friend of mine)
whose daughter was a month older than mine and she was toilet training. I jumped on the band wagon thinking I should
do it too. I made this decision not
looking at the bigger picture. It was a disaster. My little one never showed any signs that she
was ready. However, I decided that I was
ready. This is a big mistake. For us, we had just moved not only country
but also house. There was major changes
going on in her little world without me adding to the upheaval. Please factor this one in when toilet
training. Is your child actually ready?
This mistake on my part put my daughter off the whole idea and I waited until
she was 2.5 years before I tried again successfully.
Like all parents I have learnt from my mistakes, I just recently
trained my youngest Ryan (2). This time
I talked lots about why we use the bathroom and took him with me when I needed
to go or I got his big brother (4) to also show him the ropes. When I felt he was ready, out came the potty
and I started to encourage him to use it and use it he did. He was a dream to train. The key was I got
his buy in – he wanted to use the potty.
At 2.5 years my daughter was using the potty but only for
her pee’s. She was literally terrified
of doing a poop on the potty or toilet.
I tried everything but I couldn’t shake the fear and I didn’t want her
to stop doing her pee’s as well. So I
watched her like a hawk every day and when it was time I popped a pull up on
her and she “let it go”. At one stage I
got frustrated and decided that the pull up wasn’t helping so I didn’t give the
option. She didn’t go for four days, so
the pull up was not the enemy. I
was. I decided enough was enough and I
would just keep gently encouraging and when she was ready she would
decide. One Saturday around her third
birthday was the day she decided no more pull ups and we have never looked
back. I re-emphasise that readiness is
key. Don’t push your toddler, they are
only little and it will only backfire.
in the Park
Nobody tells you what parenting is going to be like. It is the hardest job on the planet and every
day a curve ball is thrown at you. Jamie
(4) my middle child recently set a poop in the park precedent. The moment we arrive at a playground he
shrieks the words “I need to poo” at the top of his voice, everybody now knows
that my kid wants to relieve himself.
Funny thing is they are all ushered to the washroom before their little
backsides hit the minivan seats. Maybe
it’s the fresh air. I don’t know but it
has happened three times in the past couple of months. I won’t go into details but I will say thank
God for Kirkland wipes and bushes!!!
Luckily, last time he shrieked the dreaded four words we were at a
playground with flushable toilets!!! Hallelujah.
This leads me onto my next challenge – the automatic
flushing toilet. Oh my God they terrify
my daughter. She has a near fit when we
go into a washroom with these Lazy man toilet, she is of the flush your own
toilet variety. It all happened a couple
of years ago not long after she was “fully” trained and we were at a local
recreation centre and she was hopping around the place needing to go to the
loo. Why do kids do that? You just need to go, stop holding
yourself! Anyway, in we go and she is
mid-stream and you guessed it, the toilet flushes and she leaps six feet into
the air with fright. Now, that was a
huge setback. The poor child must have
thought the toilet was going to gobble her, backside first!!! Prior to kids I had no gripe with this new
technology, now I dread seeing them.
There are still pull up’s in my house and there will be for
a while yet. I have no gripe with the
pull up, some people do. It is essentially
a diaper but they do come in handy at the initial stages of training as they
allow you to easily pull down your child’s clothes so they can sit on the
potty. They are handy if you are say
going to the zoo and you know that the toilets are not as easily accessible as
your own home. They are handy at night
time at the initial stages of training.
My oldest didn’t wear pull ups for too long. My youngest will be out of them soon as he
can hold himself overnight. Trick is to
get him to the toilet within the first 3 minutes of waking. However, my middle child is still wearing
them because he is a very heavy sleeper and he doesn’t wake to go to the
bathroom. I have tried everything but he
is not ready. It reminds me of the problem
I had with my daughter, I know I have to wait this one out and when he is ready,
he will no longer need them. Patience is a virtue.
Be warned you child will not be trained overnight. There will be a little regression which is
100% natural. Both my boys have been
amazing to train (surprisingly to me) but just when I thought I was home and
dry (couldn’t resist), they started to have accidents. Keep on top of your game. Even a few weeks in you have to keep
motivating them otherwise they will lapse.
Ryan as mentioned already has been a dream to train but last week he
took a couple of steps back and now we are back to being in pole position
through encouragement and rewards. You’re
a parent, you are entitled to bribe. I
said I would not do lots of things before I became a Mom, boy do I feel
hypocritical sometimes but it has helped me get through the trials and
tribulations with my sanity-ish.
forget the spares
I recommend that you bring at least one change of clothes
per child. Throw them in a bag in your
trunk so they are always there. Believe
me there will always be some kind of accident toilet or non-toilet related. Don’t
leave home without it.
It’s funny I envisaged that training my little girl would
be a breeze and my boys were going to be a nightmare. What I experienced was the total
opposite. Laura-Leigh was more
challenging and the boys did amazing. I
got Daddy to teach Jamie the standing up part, he is due to take Ryan under his
wing for that one. There’s only so much
I can do.
Every child loves a book.
Get a potty training book for your child. Start to read it to them at the pre-readiness
stage. Emphasise that children have
accidents and that’s ok and that we just try harder next time. I made up Potty charts for my older two and
we recorded how many successes we had each day.
As mentioned above I gave smarties and I also gave stickers (maybe this
is where my four year old’s sticker fetish stemmed from). When they reach a milestone like for e.g. no
more pull ups during the day or night, you could take them out for an ice-cream
as a special treat or buy them a new toy, whatever your budget allows and works
for your child.
I think the key things to remember are readiness with a
large helping of encouragement for both you and your child. Remember each child is different, go with the
flow (I’m on a roll here).
I love a funny story.
We were in Ikea one day when my daughter was 3 years old and she was
doing the usual holding herself, so I said to her “Laura-Leigh do you need to
go to the toilet?”, she looked at me as only a three year old can do, scrunched
her cute little freckled nose and scolded me “I’m just fixing my knickers!!!” Well, I thought I was going to wet mine!!!
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