One morning I woke up and told myself about 100 times that everything was going to be alright, I had to convince myself of this; try and recuperate my lost faith and hope.
I had just gone through one of the toughest years of my life. Everybody warned me how difficult it would be, and yet I had no idea. A divorce is emotionally, financially and physically extremely exhausting.
Being a single parent, you want to be strong for your kids, put on a good face and keep going, give them confidence and reassurance that EVERYTHING IS GOING TO BE OK.
But who will give YOU that reassurance? Who will hug you and make you feel that you are not alone and that someday all of this will be behind you? Friends and family are the first that come to mind but, if you, like me, don’t have any family here, there are other resources for you.
One of my favourite websites to go to is the Family Servicesof the North Shore. They offer Counselling, Support and Education for individuals and couples, parents and family, and youth as part of their programs and services. They can help you while you are going through a separation-divorce; if you are having child-parent conflicts, etc.
I personally have very fond memories of their lovely staff at their location at the I hope Family Centre. What a comforting cute little place, full of music and happy faces; the moment you enter they make you feel welcome and part of the community.
Another excellent place to find help and support is the North Shore Woman’s Centre, where they have Services for Single Mothers. as well as the YWCA Single Mother’s Services where they offer individual and group support on different topics as Employment and Education; Legal/financial information and referrals; resources for women who have experienced abuse in a current or past relationship; housing information; parenting resources, etc.
You know, being a single mother is very difficult but you don’t have to do it alone, if you’d like to join a Single Mother’s support group you can e-mail them at firstname.lastname@example.org or give them a call at 604-619-5276.
I think sharing your experiences with people who can relate (because they themselves are going through the same problems you are facing), is simply awesome. Helps you realize you are not alone and that you will be able to overcome this situation and be happy again! Reach out for your community, make new friends, and get the tools you need to get you back on track.
“You may not be where you want to be, but you can look back and be thankful you’re not where you used to be”. - Joel Osteen.