A day you never thought would come is right around the corner. You're moving and, while you're thrilled, you don't know how well your family is going to take the news. Fortunately, there are a few things you can do to help them accept the upcoming day. Discuss the upcoming move with them no matter their age and help alleviate their fears. Involving them in the moving process will help build enthusiasm, too. Of course, one of the best things you can do is visit your future home and explore the new town as a family.
The Impending Move Discussion
The excitement of your upcoming move is dampened only by the realization your family may not take the news quite as well as you. However, the wise move is to explain everything with enough time for everyone to adjust to the shock. This also gives you time to address your children's fears. Rather than allowing them to dwell on the negative aspects of the move, like leaving friends and their school behind, help them focus on the positive. You can even point out how much fun they'll have exploring the new city and making new friends according to the article, Helping Children Adjust to a Move.
Tea Time with Your Elders
Children are not the only ones who may greet a move less than enthusiastically. In fact, elderly folks may resist the very idea more than the younger generation simply because they're leaving behind cherished memories and the comfort of the familiar. The key is to make them a part of the decision and ensure they don't feel powerless in the upcoming move. Simply put, sit down and talk with them about the move, the reason behind it and admit where you need help. In the end, you'll probably need their support just as much as they need your understanding. After all, a move is stressful on everyone no matter how much you're looking forward to the change.
The Adventure of Moving
Once you've broken the news about the impending move, your attention will shift to actually preparing for the upcoming event. The good news is this is a prime opportunity to help your family adjust to the move. The more children are involved in the process, the sooner they'll accept the idea of moving to a new home. Thus, don't pack up their room when they're away at school. Instead, involve them in the process from picking up the boxes and tape to packing their toys and clothes. Be aware that your children will cling to their things, but helping them go through everything will soften the blow of leaving behind their beloved home.
A Preview of the Future
One of the great things about moving is discovering a new place and friendly faces. That said, you will make the change easier for your family if you visit your future home. In fact, driving around the city and visiting places they'll love, like the zoo, library or museums, will help build enthusiasm as well as alleviate some of their fears. While you're at it, you might want to look at a crime map to ensure you know the places your family should avoid. After all, it is better to be prepared rather than caught off guard. However, keep your family focused on the adventure aspect of the move and they'll quickly become more excited than you.
A move doesn't have to be something your family resists at every turn. In fact, you can prevent a lot of arguing by discussing the move, calming their fears and pointing out the positive aspects. Don't forget to include them in the process from beginning to end. Finally, visit your new home a few times so the move seems more like an exciting adventure than a foreboding mystery.