New Parents: How to Raise Well-Adjusted Kids

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Published Jan 22, 2017

If you're a new parent, you have probably spent some time thinking about what your child is going to be like. Well, your parenting can influence this a great deal.

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If you're a new parent, you have probably spent some time thinking about what your child is going to be like. Well, your parenting can influence this a great deal. You don't want a child with emotional problems, so you have to do what you can to set them up for emotional success as early as possible. Here are some tips to raise well-adjusted kids.

1. Be Consistent
One of the most common parenting mistakes is to be inconsistent. Make sure that if you punish your child for something, you punish them for it in the same way every time with appropriate increase in punishment for repeating the offense. Do not punish something that the child constantly does without punishment one day because you are stressed out. If you are consistent, your child will follow the rules more consistently. They will also show more consistent behavior.
Also, don't make empty threats. If you threaten a specific punishment, follow through with it.

2. Keep Fights to Yourself
Every child will see their parents fight at some point. However, it's important to minimize this the best that you can. When you are angry with your spouse, wait until the kids are asleep to discuss it, and keep the conversation quiet. Your child doesn't need to hear about your wife's tendency to spend too much money on shoes or your husband's going out with friends instead of going to your parent's house. Your child will worry if they constantly hear fighting, and they shouldn't have to feel the stress of adult problems at a young age. They also may consider screaming and yelling to be an appropriate way to communicate themselves if they are constantly around it.

3. Have Clear Expectations and Enforce Them

All children need to learn that they are expected to behave a certain way and achieve certain things. An appropriate amount of stress is necessary for your child to be able to handle stress when older. Do not be afraid to challenge your child.

4. Encourage Positive Behavior and Activities

Say nice things about your child! If they are tidy, athletic, intelligent, kind, or funny, say these things and say them often. Reward behavior that goes above and beyond what is expected. Getting a
master’s in coaching and athletic administration can teach you how to give a child challenging goals and also how to encourage positive behaviors to keep the positive results coming.

Your child is blessed to have you as a parent, and you want to do the best that you can. Follow these rules, and you will help gear your child toward emotional success.

Written by Lizzie Weakley

Lizzie Weakley is a freelance writer from Columbus, Ohio. She went to college at The Ohio State University where she studied communications. In her free time, she enjoys the outdoors and long walks in the park with her 3-year-old husky Snowball.


Twitter: @LizzieWeakley


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