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Peer pressure and kids are a really bad combination especially at school and summer camps. You just need to do your part to teach your kids how to resist it. And here’s exactly how you can accomplish that.
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and kids are a really bad combination especially at school and summer camps. You
may agree to an
age before which they shouldn’t get their first cellphone, but try telling
that to them when their classmates have one. However, it’s not too hard to make
them resist it. You just need to do your part to teach your kids how to resist
it. And here’s exactly how you can accomplish that.
Stay involved in
your kid’s day-to-day life as much as you can. Get to know more about the
things they like to do, the things they don’t like, their activities and their
friends. When they’re going out, ask them where they’re going, and with whom,
and when will they be back. Being more involved in them helps you to discover
who they really are and you can gradually work on building their strengths and
likes more easily instead of letting them fall into peer pressure and getting
tricked into believing that they like the same things as their friends.
Develop good communication skills
And in order to
get to know them better, you’d first have to work your way towards establishing
good communication skills. These skills tend to develop naturally when you
actively take interest in their lives. However, constantly asking too many
questions just might get them irritated. Instead, you might want to play the
listening role at times. Answer their questions, offer support and
encouragement when they share things with you. Children who have a close
relationship with their parents are often able to resist peer pressure easier
because it’s easier for them to share things with you and get a second opinion.
household rules is not only a great way to impart some discipline into your
kids, but it’s also a great way to keep peer pressure at bay by limiting their
access to social and screen media. Well, you won’t be able to control them when
they grow old, but while they’re still young, you definitely can. Set household
rules and make sure your kids are fully aware of your expectations from them.
That way you can limit the time they get for watching TV or Facebooking till
they’re done with more important things like homework and helping you take out
Help them make good friends
friends are the primary source of exerting peer pressure because they usually
have the strongest influence on their outside-of-the-home life. Here’s where
talking to your kids about good
qualities in a person comes handy. You need to discuss with them the
importance of choosing a good friend, give examples of what a ‘good’ and ‘bad’ friend is, and more
importantly, warn them about how they need to be careful with people who can be
a bad influence on them – like that girl your mom always told you stay away
Don’t avoid talking about the ‘S’ word
Not just the ‘s’
word, don’t avoid talking about drugs and alcohol either. These are some things
that people get into because of peer pressure way early in their lives. They
see everyone including their friends doing it, and they begin to think it’s ‘cool’
and that they shouldn’t be left behind. And not talking about these things at
home is one of the parenting
mistakes a number of parents still make even today. In fact, the more you
stress on the importance of making healthy and moral choices early on in life,
the less likely will your kids indulge in under aged smoking, drinking, doping
Teach them that it’s okay to be ordinary
This is pretty
handy in case your kid’s a girl. Kids generally give into peer pressure when
they can’t really trust their own instincts and think that what’s ‘fashionable’
is also the norm. for instance if your
daughter has rich school friends who think that style comes only with expensive
branded wear, your kid might feel the urge to splurge on clothes to match up to
her friends even if it puts a strain on your monthly budget. As important as it
is to teach your kids a few things on money matters and budgeting, it’s also
important to tell them that there are times when it’s ok to be ordinary;
and pretty online clothing that’s affordable beats branded wear that’s
worth a couple of hundred bucks.
Build a bond of trust
greater feeling for your kids than them knowing that they can trust you to pull
them out of an awkward peer pressure situation without getting embarrassed in
front of their friends. Teach them how to use a code phrase so that they can
"ask" for your help without having to ask directly in front of her
friends and feeling embarrassed – a summer school party where everyone’s
getting drunk for instance.
Teach them how to say NO
The one word you
probably fear teaching your kids to speak at a very young age because you think
they’ll say it every time you put a plate of healthy veggies in front of them,
is actually their strongest tool to not giving into peer pressure. If they can
reinforce their stance with a strong ‘No,’ they can definitely resist peer
you need to teach them how to trust their own instincts and not give into peer pressure!
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